2018 is here and I am ready to crush it!! Who is with me!?!

I am a huge believer in goal setting, I do it all year round. There is something refreshing about goal setting for a new year though. It’s like I can completely start over, nothing is holding me back, no crazy dead line causing me to stress forward. I can simply sit, breath and think about what I really want and who I want to be. 2017 was pretty rough not going to lie. If it wasn’t for Liv’s birth I’d say 2017 sucked ha But I am working on being positive and being grateful. So I want to start off by pointing out 3 highlights from 2017 and then move on.

The first is obviously the birth of my baby girl! Seriously, what a joy and HUGE blessing she is to Jordan and I.

Second, quitting my corporate job and becoming a full time mom and blogger! HALLELUJAH!!!

Three, traveling to Europe! Jordan took me on the most amazing vacation. I now have a thirst for adventure!

I vow to only remember these things from 2017 and not get stuck on my failures.

I tend to be really hard on myself and if I don’t meet my expectations

I go in a downward spiral of negativity

so this is me ending

that cycle.

Drumrolllll everyone!!! Now presenting 2018 goals!

BE A LIGHT

I want to be a person who lights up people’s day. Every person I come in contact with, whether it’s the bank teller, friend or family member. I want them to feel loved. I want to be a blessing in someones life every single day. Each day I will pray to see others and love them the way our Heavenly Father does. I will pray everyday for an opportunity to be a blessing to someone and be in tune to act on it. It can be as simple as smiling at someone, talking to a stranger in a grocery aisle or instead of asking Jordan to fix the plugged up tub (who has so many things on his plate right now) go buy some draino myself and get it done. (Self reliance, another goal I want to set). I can’t be a light if I am judging others, negative, or too stubborn to forgive. So this is my biggest goal. Being a light is my trigger word to just becoming a good, positive, selfless, service oriented individual who showers others with love.

MAXIMIZE MY CALLING

Right now I am the activity leader for nursery at my church. It is very simple. However, that doesn’t mean I don’t have to do my best. They may be too young to realize what is going on but I want to be someone who puts forth 110% effort in everything I do. I can easily just show up and play ring around the rosies. But why not take an hour and come up with something super creative and teach them something about Jesus? It will only help me grow and teach me how to be a better mom for Olivia. By maximizing my calling I am helping the other mothers in my church and teaching myself how to get creative and make fun activities for Olivia when she is older.

MAKE JORDAN MY BFF

When Jordan and I were dating and first married we were each others passion… no hobby haha okay we were obsessed with each other and did everything together. Not to say that isn’t the case now. But as we grew up and got involved in our careers and found different interests, we happened to separate a little.  Not in a bad way just in a, I like to blog while you watch basketball. Instead of, lets go on a walk together. Now, it is totally okay to separate and independently focus on our own interests. I just want to be a little more balanced and make sure I am not spending too much time doing what I like to do and take an interest in what Jordan likes to do too. I also want to find a new interest that we both can bond over. Like, tennis or something.

BE MORE ORGANIZED

You guys I am soooo bad at this! This isn’t an excuse this is just who I am but I have REALLY bad ADD and ADHD I have so much energy and so much passion that I want to do everything all at once. Which means I don’t get anything done haha. So I have written out my days hour by hour so I stay on task and can actually finish something, as well as keep a consistent structured schedule. I blog, Instagram, YouTube, serve in my church, am a full time mom, house wife, exercise, socialize, go on dates and hang out with family. How in the world I have survived without a schedule is a miracle. But I believe not having a schedule is the main reason for my 2017 failures. So this year I will not make that mistake. I have learned my lesson and even though it is completely against my nature to have structure (I am probably the most spontaneous person you will ever meet) I vow to stick to my schedule!

BE GENTLE

I think my biggest flaw is how aggressive I am. My kindness is overshadowed by my aggressive nature. Being aggressive has its pros, I definitely get what I want because my aggressive nature makes me fight and work until I achieve what I want. So that aspect of aggressiveness is good but with all things I need to balance it out. I want to replace my aggressive behavior with being decisive. By being decisive I feel like I have more control over myself. When I am aggressive, it’s like a fight till the death type of attitude and nobody likes that. Being decisive is strong whereas being aggressive is overpowering, I don’t want to be a ME person. I want to stand tall but allow others to stand tall too. Being aggressive makes me act before thinking, being decisive will give me the time to think about the situation and take the gentler approach. Being gentle is a trigger word for me to take the sass level WAY down, speak softer (more ladylike), enjoy sports/games not compete to win, think about the situation not react to the situation.

 

Well now that I have aired all of my dirty laundry haha I’m kidding.

I wanted to focus on 5 main goals. I of course have small daily goals but I wanted to emphasize the main 5. I feel like those 5 things will me be a better person, wife, mother, friend, and member of society. Those 5 things make me feel proud of who I am and will help me achieve my career goals. I am interested to know what your big and daily goals are! Lets help support each other! I can’t wait to hear from you!

XOXO JNESS

(I Love these behind the scenes pics, Olivia ambushed the photo shoot)